Essence of Sex

Of all the pleasures life has to offer, sex is undeniably on the top of the list when it comes to absolute thrill and gratification. Not only is it fulfilling, but also brings with it an array of health benefits. Had a long, stressful day at work? Sex will do the trick in offloading all the mental, physical and emotional baggage. Scientists have established that sex is important in a person’s life as it serves to minimize stress, anxiety, and lowers the risk of getting cancer and cardiovascular diseases. In addition to this, it strengthens the immune system and lowers blood pressure. It has even been proven that regular sex is a form of exercise and helps us to burn calories and keep fit, as well as enhancing brain activity. Unbelievable, right? (And don’t even get me started on the orgasms). As you can clearly see, sex is truly the gift that keeps on giving. I could go on and on, and I would probably not exhaust all these amazing benefits.
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There is a thin line between eroticism and sexuality. Some may use the two terms interchangeably, but there lies distinct differences between them. Ester Perel, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationship matters perfectly draws the line between eroticism and sex through her book Mating in Captivity:Unlocking erotic intelligence. According to her, sexuality is demonstrated by the biological, instinctive urge that animals have to procreate, while eroticism is mainly shown through the ability of humans to incorporate emotion, aesthetics and imagination into sex. Think of it in this way; animals engage in sex purely out of instinct, while we on the other hand transform this act from just purely physical contact to a much more vibrant experience through the incorporation of passion, lust imagination and creativity. After all, we are social beings, right?

Going by the dictionary definition, eroticism is basically a state of sexual excitement and arousal. If you faithfully attended all your Science classes, you are obviously familiar with the biological nitty-gritties of both male and female arousal. However, when we delve deeper into the minds of both sexes, we find that different factors trigger sexual excitement in both men and women. Visual cues are a vital aspect in male arousal. When a man sees a sensual image or message, it is registered in his brain and as a result, he gets turned on. Ever heard of the phrase, a man’s brain lies between his legs? Well, now you get the picture. Women on the other hand get less turned on by erotic images and mostly attach romanticism and emotion to sex in order to get in the mood. Consequently, men have a greater sex drive than women and this has been scientifically proven to be true.

Being Adventurous

in the Bedroom

For married couples or those in a long term relationship, regular sex is bound to get monotonous and feel very routinely after a while. It is therefore important to spice things up in the bedroom and adopt a sense of adventure, constantly trying new positions and techniques that will serve to enhance your sex life. Doing this will definitely re-ignite the spark between you and your partner and strengthen the bond between the two of you. Sex after all plays a key role in shaping healthy relationships. The more pleasurable and intense the sexual experiences in a relationship are, the more successful it becomes. It is therefore vital for both partners to take the initiative to fully explore their bodies and consistently try out new ways to pleasure their better half.

When it comes to adventure in the bedroom, you’ll be surprised to learn that many couples have very little knowledge on sex and are unaware of the different ways they can use to explore each other’s bodies. It is even more surprising to learn that people’s knowledge about sexual matters is limited to vaginal sex. There are different types of sex, the main and most common type being penetrative sex. Vaginal sex is the most popular form of penetrative sex while anal sex is the least popular and involves copulation through the anus. Oral sex is another type, and involves the use of the mouth, lips and tongue to stimulate the genitals. Mutual masturbation involves touching or stroking each other’s genitals in order to evoke pleasure,and may or may not involve the use of sex toys. Dry humping is another form, whereby there is intense rubbing of genitals without them directly touching. Instead of exclusively sticking to vaginal  sex, couples can be more adventurous by exploring the rest of the options.

Another way couples can bring out the spirit of adventure in the bedroom is by trying out different sex positions. Kama sutra positions may be a good start for venturing into more intense and erotic sex. Incorporating handcuffs and blindfolds may also be a great way to spice up your sex life. Experimenting with these accessories is definitely an amazing way to get out of your comfort zone and get a taste of tantalizing adventure. Many couples may limit adventure to just the bedroom. This should not be the case, and you and your partner could try out new places to get naughty together such as in the kitchen, in the shower, in the basement or even a quickie in the car. Engaging in mutual masturbation is a great way to spice things up and this can be made even more intense by watching an erotic film together.

Being adventurous during sex conveys a number of advantages. It enhances pleasure and intimacy in a relationship, leading to a stronger connection between partners. When both of you communicate and try to understand what your partner likes during coitus, it builds trust in the relationship. Adventurous sex also promotes vigour and enthusiasm during sex, and eliminates the boredom brought about by monotony and routine. Sex is meant to be enjoyed through every step of the way and should not feel like a chore. It is therefore important for you and your partner to think out of the box and keep exploring new ways to turn the heat up in between the sheets.

Increasing Libido in a Boring Relationship

At times, couples tend to lose vigour in their sex life. A boring sex life is a huge contributor to broken relationships since sex plays an important role in building a strong connection between couples. One way couples can deal with this problem is by increasing their libido or sex drive. There are a number of ways to improve libido in your relationship. One simple way is through flirting. Sending flirtatious texts or even suggestive messages Illicit playfulness and brings back enthusiasm in your relationship and sex life. Flirtatious body language such as a wink or a suggestive smile may go a long way in increasing your partner’s sex drive. Sharing erotic fantasies is another way partners can increase their sex drive. Being open about your desires and fetishes enables your partner to be more accepting to different ways of giving and receiving pleasure. This will motivate them to indulge in erotic activities such as role play, bondage and blindfolding.
Libido can be enhanced by using an array of sex toys. As previously mentioned, sex toys are a great way to get your partner sexually aroused. Incorporating them in your sex life will greatly contribute in improving sex drive. They make sex fun and exciting to engage in, and are a must have for couples struggling with a dull and boring relationship. Using drugs such as Viagra can help in increasing libido in men. Viagra is designed to help the man maintain an erection during sex and consequently last longer in bed. Setting aside more time for foreplay is vital in stimulating desire for sex. Kissing, touching and engaging in intense passionate acts go a long way in turning the heat up in a boring relationship. Sex should never be a dull affair. There are many more ways that you can explore to make sex an eventful experience for you and your partner. The most important thing is to think out of the box and utilize your creativity and imagination. Remember that foreplay is vital in making way for an intense, mind-blowing orgasm. Most importantly, communication is crucial in establishing what works well for you and your partner and what doesn’t.
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Sex Toys in Relationships

When you think about sex toys, what mostly comes to mind is female masturbation. For a long time, women have used these objects of pleasure to engage in their steamy solo activities. However, with the passing of time, couples have begun using sex toys to make their sex lives more exhilarating. There are numerous varieties of sex toys that can be used to provide intense pleasure, from vibrators to dildos and the most recent invention; pulsators. They vary in shape, size and function, and depending on one’s preference, they do a pretty great job at evoking different types of sensations and stimulating pleasure zones where your partner could probably not reach. They also help to tone vaginal muscles hence making orgasms more intense and mind-blowing. Sex toys can help couples in a relationship to enhance their libido and spice up their sex lives. If you find that you and your partner are slacking in the bedroom, you may introduce sex toys to brighten up your sex life and make things more interesting.

Sex toys are a great way to enhance arousal in your partner and give her mind-blowing orgasms. They can be used to stimulate different erogenous zones in a woman’s body hence making sex more intense and pleasurable for both partners. This in turn builds a strong connection between them. Additionally, they provide avenues for partners to fully express themselves sexually. Communication between the man and woman about the right spots to stimulate builds a stronger bond and promotes trust in the relationship. Couples should therefore not shy away from using these objects of pleasure but instead experiment with them to get maximum pleasure from sexual intercourse.