Do you have an interview to attend tomorrow morning at 8am? You know what your outfit options are; a pantsuit with a white blouse beneath, heels and maybe a matching bag to go with it. Have you recently joined a gym and are looking for appropriate gym-wear? You only have to answer one question; how stretchy do you want your yoga pants to be? Is there a wedding you have to attend and are at a loss on what to wear? Well, you have three options, depending on whether you are the bride, a bridesmaid or a friend of a friend of a friend of the bridegroom.
On the other hand, what to wear before getting down and dirty with a casual partner you just met at the club, your boyfriend of ten years or your husband on your twentieth anniversary is something we haven’t found a formula for as yet. For some men, the sight of you in skimpy lacy underwear would drive them mad. Others have a preference for the nude; you go to them with nothing but sweet grace on your body. And then there are those who love seeing you comfortable, and when you don their t-shirt, cotton undies and socks, their motors immediately start running. Don’t get me started on men who love a challenge; the more complicated your bra garter belt, stockings and panties are, the more they like it.
The choice of what to wear before a night of sweating, moaning and screaming is not just about pleasing your man; it is not merely what he wants to see you wearing to get him going. It is also about feeling confident and portraying what your mood for the night is; a feral cat, a submissive or a wild tiger; or anything else. You can embody anyone or any character in bed – or in the kitchen, really – by carefully dressing for the occasion.
So, what are some of the tried and tested clothing options that you can wear the next time you are getting down and dirty? How can you pair your outfit and lingerie to display a certain mood?
Soft “Pet me” Fabrics
Silk, cashmere, faux, fur and suede are fabrics that scream “touch me” and “caress me” on a woman’s soft skin. Not only do they accentuate the smoothness of the skin, they also feel good rubbing against it. The effect is that your man, especially if he is obsessed by your skin, will be instantly turned on.
If he is sitting across the room, the glide of your satin clothes over your skin will remind him of the texture and the feel of your skin against his fingers or his mouth. Running his fingers over you with the fabric shielding your skin against his knuckles will have him craving to touch you even more.
Little Black Panties
You can never go wrong with a pair of little black panties; probably because of how good they look on your ass, which is contained and jutting out at the same time. This is because the color black generally has a slimming effect. Little black panties are perfect for the first time you are sleeping with someone. Their little nature shows your partner that you aren’t afraid to be sexy while the black makes you seem mysterious.
You will leave your tinder date asking you out on a second date just to find out whether you have those undies in another color. Or in a smaller size.
A Red Theme
Nothing says come-here-and-ravage me like an all-red outfit; bra, panties, garter belt, manicure, lipstick. When you are dressed in fire-engine red, all your man sees is how you much you want them right there and then. Red is a loud, arresting color that will catch and hold his attention on you all night.
Red also has a burning effect and as such, you will inspire passion that will consume the both of you, giving you fire-filled encounter with your man. You may choose to have your whole outfit in red, or you may have one or several pieces of your outfit in this color to arrest attention to a specific part of your body or to portray a certain theme.
There is a funny paradox with guys; when you want to steal their hoodie and wear it because it is big, comfortable, looks really warm and smells like them, and would also be great for the cold weather; your man is likely to protest. His protest is unlikely to bear any fruit, but protest he will. However, the sight of you in nothing but their oversized t-shirt or shirt will get them pouncing on you within minutes. He may be pouncing on you within seconds if he sees your curves stretching out one of his t-shirts.
One effect that his clothes have on you is that they make you look comfortable when you are hanging out with him; and this are bonus points if this is a person you want to go steady with. It also shows that you are attracted to them and their scents. It also, below the surface, shows that you belong to him and aren’t afraid of professing so.
Heels, Garter Belts, Thigh Highs and Dark Eyeliner
In a movie, a dominant woman is likely to be found wearing black thigh-high stockings, a purple garter belt and would have smoky eyes. A woman in such underwear and high red-bottom heels is seen as a dominant whose sexual partner will do all that she demands; lick her feet, scream her name or crawl towards her.
Just as the name suggests, athleisure wear are clothes that have been designed for doing sporty and athletic activities and can also be used to as leisure clothes. For instance, when you lounge around the house in yoga pants without specifically doing any yoga.
Athleisure wear is also perfect for your bedroom seductions. Short running shorts that are not too tight but hug your butt just enough are perfect for teasing him as you watch a movie. He might not know it, but during that night, those shorts will be torn off your body using his teeth. Wearing a stretchy gym t-shirt or a tank top without any bra beneath gives you a playful edge, and together with those short shorts, you can play a game of tease.
When you are having sex with a new partner for the first time, athleisure wear can provide a simple, sexy and comfortable outfit that will come off easily.
A Thong or a G-String
A thong is, simply put, a symbol of power. On the other hand, a G-string shows your audience that you are sexy and aren’t afraid to show it and you live by your rules. These outfits are perfect for a night when you are feeling alpha and are ready to take charge of yours and your partner’s pleasure.
Most importantly, they look great on your ass, are flawlessly sexy and leave just enough to the imagination. In your next alpha bedroom encounter, bring along a pair of your best thong and see how many good points it gives you.
The one ingredient that will spice up each of the outfits you have picked out for a romp with a casual or steady partner is confidence. Whether you are wearing a complicated mess involving buttons and zippers or a pair of cotton boy briefs, if it is not topped with confidence, it will not have the desired effect.
Dressing for the occasion is not just a physical thing; it is also mental as well.
The choice of outfit to wear when you are having sex is dependent on what is available in your wardrobe, what you want to do in bed that day and your partner’s preferences. Take all these into consideration when picking out an outfit for your casual date next Tuesday.