Most women who have experienced an orgasm would undoubtedly agree that it is the most pleasurable feeling in the world. If you want to know what the female orgasm feels like, close your eyes and imagine an intense, pulsing wave of sweet sensations building up from the center of your vagina, slowly spreading to the rest of your body like wildfire. You can feel your insides contorting in an insanely pleasurable feeling, while the juices deliciously flow from your womanhood, igniting the fire with every stroke and every thrust. The sexual tension is so tight you can cut it with a knife. The very air you breath feels like it is getting sucked from your lungs and the adrenaline rush leaves you moaning helplessly and uncontrollably. You can feel your eyes recoil back in pleasure, wetness intensifying, lips wide open, letting out that glorious big ‘O’. It is a sensational moment filled with passion, lust and vulnerability. It feels like you just transcended into another dimension, where the only thing you can feel is your wet throbbing vagina and the heat between your legs. If you think I am done then you’re in for a wild ride. So grab a seat and some popcorn as I take you through this fascinating journey through the female body and its fascinating treasures buried within.
Contrary to men, women are able to have multiple orgasms, meaning that you can have a second orgasm just moments after your first. You can even choose to have a third, fourth, fifth, or a sixth as long as your body can handle it. One fascinating fact is that the most number of orgasms ever witnessed in a woman was a whooping 134 in just 1 hour. Imagine the intensity of 134 orgasms pulsating through your genitals in such a short time. Men could never. Just as every woman’s body is special and magical in its own way, different women experience orgasms in different ways. Some women are able to orgasm through vaginal penetration alone while others are able to solely orgasm through clitoral stimulation or nipple stimulation. Knowing and exploring your own body is the only way to find out which of the many different types float your boat. Interestingly, each type of orgasm feels different and they all vary in intensity, as well as duration. A woman experiencing an orgasm through g-spot stimulation will completely agree that it feels totally different from a clitoral orgasm. As I delve deeper into this article, I will unravel the myths surrounding the female orgasm and highlight the truths and half-truths behind this fascinating phenomenon.
Vaginal Penetration: A tip of the iceberg?
The most misleading notion that has been perpetuated by both women and men alike is that, for a woman, the vagina is the only ticket to achieving that big ‘O’. Of course we are all aware of the basics about human reproduction (unless you weren’t paying attention in class) and the nitty-gritties concerning sex, but when it comes to a woman’s body, we never really seem to focus on its pleasure. You will be surprised to learn that the female body is able to orgasm in 11 different ways. In fact, according to a study done by sex expert Michael Castleman, only 25% of women are able to orgasm through vaginal penetration. So how else can women stimulate their bodies to achieve that sweet intense climax? Let’s take a look at these several mind-blowing ways to make her cum. Gentlemen, it’s your time to shine.
- The Clit-gasm
As tiny and insignificant as it may seem, the clitoris is actually a big deal. It’s like a miniature power button that you can gently stroke, caress or lick to turn her on. Most women agree that they frequently experience clitoral orgasms as compared to any other kind. This is because the clitoris is packed with millions of nerve endings making it extremely sensitive to touch. In addition to that, it is the only spot in the human body exclusively meant for pleasure. Ironically, so many men tend to miss the mark when either trying to find the clit or maneuvering it to give their partners that intense, toe-curling orgasm.
When you separate the lips of the vulva, what you see at the center is a woman’s labia. They may vary in size and appearance depending on her body, and the point at which the labia meet (at the very top) is where you will find the clit. To some women it feels like a tiny button while according to others, it feels like a soft patch of skin. Contrary to common belief, the clitoris actually extends inside the vagina and what we see on the outside is just the tip, covered by a clitoral hood. When a woman is sexually aroused, blood rushes to the clit, and the tip becomes enlarged causing the hood to retract. The area becomes extremely sensitive, and stroking it can lead to one of the most intense orgasms a woman could ever experience.
The best way to stimulate the clitoris would definitely be through a vibrator, but the fingers or tongue may work just as well. You can orally stimulate it using your tongue by gently licking it up and down or by circling the area around it making her increasingly aroused. Repeating these sexy motions by tracing your tongue all over her will surely make her moan all the way to that earth-shattering climax. If you use your fingers to caress or stroke it, make sure it is as gentle as possible. You can make it fast or slow, depending on what she likes. Inserting a finger or two into her vagina to scoop up some of her juices for lubrication is a great way to enhance sensation since your fingers will gently slide over her tip, driving her crazy with desire and build up on the intensity of her orgasm.
- The G-spot: A mystery spot?
The controversial G-spot has been at the center of a heated debate by both scientists and sexperts . This begs the question, does the spot really exist or is it just a mystery waiting to be solved? What we need to understand is that the G-spot is not really a fixed spot but rather an area of increased sensitivity packed with numerous nerve endings, lying in close proximity to sensitive organs such as the clitoral shaft inside the vagina. It’s location varies widely from woman to woman, and it may illicit different degrees of sensation when stimulated. G-spot orgasms feel completely different from clitoral orgasms and almost every other orgasm. When she is lying on her back, gently insert your finger and trace the front wall of the vagina till you come across a roughly textured area that is a bit swollen. Stroking it or rubbing against it slowly will surely stimulate her enough to give a mind-blowing orgasm. Some women however may feel a sudden urge to pee when this area is stimulated. Others may feel nothing at all. Nevertheless, the G-spot is a magical spot that can drive a woman crazy with intense pleasure if stimulated correctly. Not so much of a mystery anymore now, is it? A much easier way to stimulate the G-spot is by using sex toys with a curved, bulbous head. Making sure your partner is sufficiently aroused, gently insert the toy, massaging the front wall of the vagina to access the sweet spot. Watch her reactions – intensity of her moans, her breathing, her movements – to ascertain whether she is having that blissful climax. Alternatively, you could try out some sexy positions during sex to hit that special spot. Reverse cowgirl and doggy style work perfectly to stimulate her G-spot and give her that earth-shattering ‘O’.
- The C-spot orgasm
Unknown to many, cervical orgasms popularly known as C-spot orgasms actually exist and may be one of the most intense sensations of all. They’re probably like the mother of all orgasms. The cervix is located very deep into the vagina and some sex experts have claimed that there is a sensitive spot known as the ‘goddess spot’ just below the cervix. If the penis managed to penetrate deep enough to hit this spot, then the woman would experience a wild rush of toe-curling sensations. But since the cervix is not easily accessible, some sex positions such as cowgirl and doggy style that are perfect for deep vaginal penetration may enhance cervical orgasms. Additionally, using sex toys specially tailored for deep penetration may greatly help you to access your goddess spot as opposed to solely using your fingers. For a woman to experience this sweet, intense mind-blowing orgasm, it is important that she is sexually aroused and in the mood for some sexy action. This causes the cervix to ascend slightly, making it easier for the head of the penis or the sex toy to hit it right. When dealing with the cervix, it is important to be as gentle as possible since the area is prone to pain when under a lot of pressure. Don’t bang hard into it, but instead slip into her smoothly making deep, gentle thrusts.
- The Nipple-gasm
When things get heated during sex, most guys tend to focus more on their woman’s vagina and forget about the twins at the very top that need every bit of tender love and care. Playing with your woman’s breasts during sex especially by stimulating her nipples can lead to deliciously intense, satisfying orgasms. A research done by sex therapist Dr. Madeleine Castellanos shows that about 1% of women are able to orgasm from having their nipples stimulated. By gently rubbing her nipples and squeezing her breasts, you are slowly heightening her pleasure and enhancing her arousal. You can use your tongue to circle around her nipple to tease her so that she can be well stimulated. When the nipple becomes erect, gently- but firmly- pinch it from the base while alternating from light to strong touches. Follow this with a nice, subtle technique where you roll her nipples between your thumb and index finger. This will drive her to the edge with earth-shattering sensations coupled with a strong climax.
- Belly button orgasms
The navel or belly button is the last place anyone would think of when it comes to pleasure. Surprisingly, this spot is actually an erogenous zone for some women and these kinds of orgasms do exist. Owing to a special nerve connecting our navels to the cervix and brain, we can be able to stimulate ourselves enough to push us onto the brink of mind-blowing orgasms. The standing position during sex is one of the best ways to achieve this since blood flows down to your erogenous areas through gravity increasing sensitivity and consequently, arousal. As she stands with her legs slightly apart, kneel comfortably between them and trace your wet tongue just around the belly button to tease her. You can use your hands to grab her ass as you occasionally kiss your way around her belly to add to the passion. When she is sufficiently aroused, use the tip of your tongue to penetrate her navel, at the same time slipping your fingers down her vagina to hit her sweet spots. Another interesting way to spice it up is by making her lie on her back as you pour some drops of champagne or honey around her belly and in her navel. Slowly lick your way around her starting away from the navel as you inch closer, sucking it up and devouring it with enough intensity to blow her away into an intense orgasm. At the same time, you can stimulate her clit and her G-spot with your fingers giving her an even stronger orgasm.
Women are able to orgasm without sex. It’s not magic witchcraft, but an actual thing that happens when some women go about their normal day-to-day activities. Spontaneous orgasms are therefore not a myth. According to psychologist Leon F. Seltzer, some women unexpectedly experience intense orgasms when they participate in normal activities such as riding a bike, exercising, or even horseback riding. It’s more of a physical stimulation rather than a mental one that leads to this phenomenon and this may be attributed to the friction produced by these activities that causes the clitoris and the vulva to become overly stimulated. This unconsciously leads to the woman’s arousal and consequently, very intense orgasms.
When you’re at the gym, the last thing on your mind is getting an orgasm. But for some women, working out can be one intense experience filled with happy endings. Coregasms are exercise-induced orgasms that arise from taking part in core workouts involving the pelvic floor muscles as well as abdominal muscles. Doing squats, yoga, or even lifting weights can unconsciously induce some women into achieving a strong climax. Some women who have experienced this claim that the orgasms from exercise are not as strong as those achieved through sex, and the intensity may vary from one woman to another.
The Art of Squirt
In your occasional pornhub adventures, you have probably stumbled upon a video or two where there’s a woman squirting as she experiences what seems like an explosive orgasm. It seems fascinating to most men, but what most people need to realize is that porn sites have an unrealistic portrayal of how sex ought to be. So does squirting really happen or is it a myth?
Female ejaculation, popularly known as squirting, happens when a clear fluid shoots out of the vagina during orgasm or just before climax. Research carried out over the years have been inconclusive in trying to establish the contents of this fluid, but evidence shows that it mostly contains urine. So, yes. Squirting is indeed real, but not all women are able to squirt. A recent study by the International Society for sexual Medicine estimates that about 10-50% of women can squirt during sex. Additionally, women who experience g-spot orgasms are the most likely to squirt. Practicing the art of squirting therefore requires that you have a g-spot sex toy in order to hit that sweet spot and illicit amazingly sweet, toe-curling sensations. You can practice by yourself or with your partner, making sure you are as comfortable and relaxed as possible. Keep in mind that play time is spray time, so don’t be too embarrassed about wetting the sheets as this is perfectly normal.
Sleep Orgasms and wet dreams
Most people are aware of the science behind wet dreams and mostly associate it with men’s bodies. But since a woman’s sexuality is rarely discussed openly, very few realize that this phenomenon does, in fact, happen to women as well. Also known as nocturnal orgasms, sleep orgasms occur when a woman gets a sexually arousing dream, causing her to be stimulated in her sleep and consequently leading to climax. However, not all women experience this type of orgasm and research suggests that it may rarely occur. Sleep orgasms can also be triggered by excessive anxiety, excitement or stress and their frequency increases with age. Older women will therefore tend to orgasm in their sleep more than young teenage girls. The reason is however not clear, but climaxing in your sleep is perfectly normal and should really not be a cause for concern.
As crazy as it sounds, women are indeed able to orgasm during labor. According to a survey by the Positive Birth Movement, about 6% of women have claimed to have had an orgasm when giving birth. This science behind this phenomenon is fascinating as much as it is ironic. Scientists have provided evidence of two regions in the brain responsible for causing orgasms being active during painful sensations such as labor. Additionally, childbirth usually brings about massive blood flow to the woman’s reproductive organs namely the cervix, vagina as well as the clitoris. For terrified about the experience of childbirth, this interesting fact may well be a silver lining.
As we have seen, the female orgasm is an incredible feeling, and more women ought to take charge of their own bodies and explore different ways in which they can pleasure themselves. Some women may not be so lucky in experiencing this amazing sensation, but all good things take time and with sufficient practice and learning about your body will certainly propel you into experiencing true sexual satisfaction. A woman’s body is truly magical, and oozes sexual energy in so many fascinating places. So much is yet to be discovered about women’s sexuality as more people continue to open up to the issues surrounding women’s bodies. One thing is for sure though; a sexually satisfied woman is a happy woman.