The key to achieving an incredibly thrilling and satisfying sex life lies in mastering the subtle art of foreplay. The intense build-up of anticipation, the sexual tension, the pulsating desire, and raw passion are all necessary ingredients needed to spark off a mind-blowing orgasm during sex. Foreplay involves numerous techniques that help arouse a woman’s desire and get her deliciously wet and ready for the main event. It is incredibly important for your partner to be sufficiently aroused during foreplay, otherwise, the sex will surely wind up being dull and boring. Getting things soaked up in her panties ensures that both of you enjoy a sweet, slip-and-slide experience filled with intense toe-curling sensations. Reaping the benefits from a proper foreplay session requires that you do not rush the process but rather, take your precious time with her. Savor every kiss and touch while consistently whispering sexy, arousing words to drive her over the edge with earth-shattering pleasure. Tease her, lick her, suck her, kiss her and ignite the fire by immersing her in nothing but pure lust and passion. Even before you’re finished, she will already be begging you to enter her and caress her warm, wet insides with your thickness. Aside from serving as a warm-up for intercourse, foreplay helps to strengthen intimacy in the relationship and provide a closeness that surpasses mere sex. Exploring each other’s bodies is a great way to enhance trust in the relationship as it enables both of you to experience each other’s vulnerability. Additionally, you get to learn about your partner’s preferences, what they like, what turns them on and what tickles their fancy. Keep in mind that the brain itself is a very powerful sexual organ, and therefore stimulating her mentally is just as important as physical touch. Tease he mind by sending naughty texts while she’s at work or at the store, ensuring that you spice up the fun and keep things as sexy as possible. Foreplay is not just about what happens in the bedroom but rather, the events leading up to sex. The greater the anticipation, the greater the arousal and what you eventually have in the end is an explosive wave of sensations coursing through your insides and taking control over your bodies. One important art that you need to master is how to talk dirty to her. Women like to be the center of attention and desire, therefore, telling her how sexy she is and how much you love her body will surely get those juices flowing for a wet, steamy, romantic session. Whisper sweet, sensual words in her ear and the tell her exactly what you’ll do to her. Compliment every inch of her body and explain how badly you want to be inside her. Mention how deliciously wet she feels and how hard you feel just looking at her sexy ass. Tell her that you plan to fuck her brains out and give her the best time of her life. Be confident, but don’t overdo it since it may end up sounding monotonous or something that’s been rehearsed prior to the action. Reassurance is very important, so as much as you plan to walk the talk, don’t forget to talk the talk. As I have previously mentioned, foreplay not only involves bedroom bliss but also encompasses a lot of other aspects outside a sensual setting. It is therefore important that you master this wonderful art and blow her mind away. Don’t forget that communication is key and it’s wise to ask her what she likes, what turns her off and how best she wants to be pleased. Here are some of the best ways to make foreplay a pleasurable experience for you and your queen and to drive her wild with anticipation.
- Kissing and tongue play
Kissing may at times feel monotonous after a while but it is undeniably the most erotic gesture during foreplay. Deep, passionate kisses coupled with sexy tongue play can go a long way in turning her on and getting her panties all wet. According to Patti Britton, a sex expert, and author of The art of sex coaching, women tend to derive their greatest sensual pleasure from kissing. Most men, however, tend to miss the mark when trying to turn the heat up during the make-out sessions. When making out, start by kissing her gently on the lips, while playfully pulling back after a couple of kisses. Kiss her cheek, her forehead, and the edges of her lips slowly, making it as erotic and as passionate as possible. At the same time, gently run your fingers around the nape of her neck and down her back to drive her over the edge and make her want more. Most men might find it uncomfortable voicing their emotions during sex as well as foreplay so they tend to be completely mute. However, whispering sexy words to your girl in between kisses goes a long way in intensifying foreplay and propelling her to climax.
You may whisper things like: “Damn baby you’re so wet,” “you turn me on,” “you taste so damn good,” “I want you so bad,” or “you drive me crazy.” This will instantly turn her on and get the juices flowing. Pick up the pace by kissing her intensely, this time closed-mouthed, savoring the wetness of her luscious lips. Trace the tip of your tongue on her upper lip, biting on it just slightly. Shove your tongue passionately into her mouth, teasing her and making her suck on it gently. Intense tongue play when properly done can be a mind-blowing experience that serves as a perfect recipe for a toe-curling orgasm. Continue kissing her lips, alternating between deep, passionate kissing and thrilling tongue play. Make sure the kisses are not sloppy as this can be a huge turnoff.
The ears are another sensitive spot that should not be left out of the fun. Kiss her earlobes while alternating between light nibbling and biting. Lick her behind her ear, gently blowing onto it to make her madly aroused. Keep in mind that your hands should always be occupied, either squeezing her breasts or tracing the back of her neck and shoulders. Kiss her forehead once more, making your way down her cheek and the outline of her jaw while expertly landing on the nape of her neck. Neck kisses tend to be wildly stimulating and this technique will surely leave her moaning helplessly. First off, use your lips to gently graze the skin on her neck up and down while pulling her hair back. Passionately kiss her neck, leaving smooth, wet touches with your lips and tongue. Continue to do this as you lightly suck on her neck while at the same time incorporating dirty talk. Run your hand down her back, paying close attention to her moans as well as her breathing. This will give you a sign on whether or not she is enjoying it, and whether you need to up your game. Proceed by kissing her shoulders, collarbone and finally moving down to her breasts, while gently taking off her top and unhooking her bra (with the consent of course).
- Boob and nipple play
One common mistake men make when stimulating the breasts is heading straight for the nipples. It is important to note that the most sensitive part of a woman’s breasts is the areola, which is the dark colored area around the nipple, and not the nipple itself. Start off by gently squeezing her breasts, skillfully stroking your way around the top, sides and the underboob. As you continue to do this, you can either give her a light neck and collarbone kisses or gently nibble on her earlobes. Occasionally whisper sexy words to stimulate her insides and maintain the much needed sensual mood. Next on, focus on her areola, especially the upper quadrant of her breast between 10 and 2 o’clock. Circle the areola using the tip of your tongue until the nipple becomes erect and you can feel her writhing around in pleasure. Gently pinch the base of the nipple, rolling it between your thumb and index finger. Occasionally suck on it and use your tongue to flick it rhythmically, either up and down or sideways. This will surely drive her crazy with anticipation and desire.
- Teasing her waist and belly
The area along a woman’s waist especially inside her hipbones and around her belly button is quite sensitive when properly stimulated and can drive her over the edge with earth-shattering sensations. After you’re done with her breasts, slowly move down to her abdomen, kissing your way around her belly, gradually moving into her belly button. Leave nice, wet kisses and occasionally blow over her skin to send those thrilling sensations throughout her body. Use your tongue to penetrate her navel, licking and kissing alternately. You can use your hands to caress her thighs, lower back or ass. Kiss your way down to the area where her hipbones protrude, just below her stomach and away from her pubic hair. Leave light, wet kisses, ensuring that your fingers spiral around her thighs and lower back. You can choose to talk dirty to her, telling her everything you plan to do her once you reach down there. This will definitely get her wetter than she already is and drive her insane with arousal. The thighs are another erogenous spot which can arouse a woman to her fullest. As you work your way down her abdomen, slowly unzip her jeans, carefully taking them off (with consent as well) but you can still choose to leave her panties on. Leave light, wet kisses mid-thigh, slowly making your way up. Tease her, lick her and suck her as you alternate with varying degrees of pressure and wetness. Caress her inner thighs, kissing and licking your way up and down as well as around her genitals. At this point, she is writhing in pleasure, her wet vagina pulsating with chilling sensations. You can either proceed by dry humping or performing oral, depending on what she likes or prefers.
- Dry humping
One incredible way to spice up your steamy foreplay sessions would be to incorporate the art of tribadism, popularly known as dry humping. By rubbing or grinding your erection against her vagina, you will be slowly building up intense waves of pleasure inside her and at the same time stimulating her clitoris and vulva. You can choose to do this while fully clothed, or with just your underwear on. Either way, dry humping is highly stimulating for a woman, as you are applying direct pressure on her clit – a woman’s ultimate pleasure button. Start by slowly grinding your erection against her vulva and clit, moving in repetitive, rhythmic motions. Increase the pace while gradually applying more pressure on her genitals as this will add to the friction and cause an explosive surge of stimulating sensations. You can continue to kiss her neck and lips, maintaining the sweet sensual rhythm. Another way to do this would be to make her straddle you on the couch and moving her hips back and forth till she can feel your erection poking her clitoris. Doing this for a couple of minutes will definitely elicit some mind-blowing sensations and get her juices flowing.
- Oral bliss
Is foreplay even worth the time if oral sex isn’t involved? Of course not. Giving head is undeniably the epitome of any sexual experience, and is arguably a measure of love and intimacy in any relationship. I mean, penetrative sex is great and all, but oral sex really shows how much your partner is into you since they don’t get to gain anything from it, apart from seeing you fully pleased and gratified. It is a pure form of intimacy shared between two people that are mutually interested in each other. If you think about it, nobody gives head to people they’re not into. In order to blow her away with the best oral, make sure to focus on her clitoris rather than her vagina. The clit is packed with numerous nerve endings making it extremely sensitive to any form of stimulation and hence using your tongue to gently lick, flick and suck on it will surely illicit one of the most incredible sensations inside her. Start off by circling your wet tongue around her clit repeating these sexy motions up and down or sideways. This will surely make her writhing around in pleasure and get her insides begging for more. You can take it slow or increase the pace depending on what she likes. Firmly place your tongue under her clitoral hood and gently suck on it, ensuring you don’t bite or apply too much pressure. The direct pressure on this very sensitive area tends to cause a lot of discomforts, so be a gentleman and make it smooth sailing. Make it as passionate as possible, licking and sucking with raw desire. When you’re done, tell her how great she tastes and how badly you want to be inside her. This will certainly get her fully aroused and ready for action
- Sex toys and foreplay
The beauty about sex toys is that they can be used in any form of sexual activity, from simple solo sessions when you want to get naughty by yourself, to madly erotic foreplay sessions with your partner. They are specially designed and equipped with exemplary features to suit the needs of both you and your partner. If you want to up your game in the bedroom especially during foreplay, these toys will definitely come in handy in your sexual escapades:
They are amazing devices suited for foreplay as they can be used to tease your partner by stimulating their nipples or clit. They come in a variety of models, with some being equipped with a remote control system to control the intensity and speed of the vibrations. Using this on her will certainly leave her with intense sensations and toe-curling orgasms during sex.
Adjustable nipple clamps
They are perfect for nipple stimulation and pleasure and are uniquely adjustable for teasing your partner during foreplay as well as sex. Pop them onto her nipples during your steamy foreplay session and enjoy every lick, nip, and bite. They also come in various sizes and models and you can pick from a variety of stores online.
If you are into kinky bedroom bliss, then blindfolds are the perfect way to go when it comes to teasing your partner during foreplay. They can be used together with handcuffs to arouse your partner and build anticipation for the main event. She’ll definitely be in for some mind-blowing orgasms and the best part is that she won’t see it coming.
- Mutual masturbation as a form of foreplay
As we all know, masturbation is an extremely personal experience and sharing this experience with your partner is a very intimate way of increasing arousal and intensifying desire. Touching yourselves in the presence of each other can be very stimulating to the mind, and by now you know that the mind itself is a powerful sexual organ. Doing this during foreplay is a fun way to spice things up and get those juices flowing. Watching her please herself with her toys is an amazing way to increase anticipation and intensify your foreplay session. Likewise, beating your meat in front of her can really go a long way in intensifying arousal. Don’t be ashamed of exploring your bodies beside each other. It goes a long way in teaching your partner how you prefer being touched and how best you would like to be pleased.
- Sensual massages: A need
Physical touch is one of the most sensual ways to arouse your partner, therefore performing tantric massages as a form of foreplay can go a long way in turning her on. Areas such as the scalp, the top of the head, the neck, the lower back, breasts, thighs, and belly are particularly sensitive to touch therefore massaging your way around her body will surely heighten her desire and arouse her to the maximum. Massages also serve to relax the body and create a form of intimacy between two people. The tantric yoni massage is a great technique specially tailored to arouse her to the fullest and keep her chained to your rhythm. It involves massaging sensitive areas such as her neck back and breasts to elicit a pleasurable feeling. When you’re eventually done with her, she’ll never forget how thrilling and satisfying the whole experience was.